THE SOLUTION

Active Denial

Greetings,

If and when those feelings of despair start to surface as I approach thirty, I won't suppress them, because that's unhealthy according to most psychologists. I'll acknowledge them, but I won't give myself a chance to dwell on them. I plan to actively deny those feelings and thoughts from occupying space in my head by focusing on positives that come with turning thirty, focus on what I have to look forward to at thirty. It seems simple.

But what are the positives? What do I have to look forward to? Besides the obvious things like, hopefully I'll still be around to celebrate, and I'll be more mature, I don't have the luxury of a crystal ball to show me exactly what I have to look forward to. I don't know if I'll meet someone and be married by then, I don't know if I'll be still at the same job, I don't know if I'll still be living in Philadelphia...you get the point. I could make resolutions based on those types of unknowns, like "I want to move to Florida when I turn 30," or "I want to move to a different company by the time I turn 30," but I've setting those kind of goals for myself all my life.

I wanted to focus on a different type of accomplishment. Something new, something exciting, something monumental enough to compete with the advent of turning thirty. But what?

Of course you already know, but stay tuned to find out how I came up with the idea.


Heading out to roller blade,

Almost Thirty